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How Wicked Stars Stormy Daniels and jessica drake Got Their Start

Kristin Battista-Frazee

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I had the pleasure this past summer of chatting with Wicked Pictures stars jessica drake and Stormy Daniels to highlight the 40th anniversary of the release of iconic movie Deep Throat.  I asked them both to tell me about the moment they each decided the adult industry was the career path they wanted to take.  Here’s what they told me. jessica drake:

There were a couple of moments that led to my decision.  I host a radio show called In Bed With Jessica Drake on Sirius. I was telling a story to my in-studio guest, Julianne, about how something that she did many, many years ago changed my life.  She was touring with Janine and they were doing a duo act called Blondage.  When I was 18, 19 years old, I was in El Paso going to college for the very first time, and I was stripping. I saw them come through at a club a few a few years after I had moved there, and I remember sitting at the tip rail and watching them, and just being completely fascinated by their dynamics, their power, their beauty...everything.  And, I had stars in my eyes... "I want to do this."

There was just not a lot to watch back then so that opened up my eyes to going from being a house dancer and being on stage.  I'm sort of comfortable with nudity.  I'm very much a people person so I just loved to hang out and talk to everybody, and just have a great time. I had plenty of regular customers and then when I saw them it sort of made me realize that it could be more of a career or more theatrical than I had made it so far. 

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Stormy Daniels:  “I was always a fan [of porn].  I was never taught that nudity or sexual expression was bad or wrong.  So, I was blessed in that, especially being from Louisiana, I never grew up feeling repressed sexually, or that I should hide my body or that I shouldn’t say what I like, or that masturbating was bad.  Being raised open-minded led to me eventually watching adult movies and enjoying them. I was especially drawn to Wicked movies. 

I had a friend who was going out to LA to make her first movie and she just invited me along for the ride.  She wasn't afraid to do porn, basically I think she was afraid of going to California by herself!  I went with her to the first day and she was working on a film and they asked me if I wanted to be an extra, and it was just so amazing.  It wiped away any of the lingering preconceived notions that I had of the adult industry. And that first day on set just being a non-sex background actor, I was like, "This is nothing like I thought."  And, that was what sort of was the final thought: I could really do this and enjoy doing it and believe in doing it and show other people, especially couples and women, that sexuality isn't bad and that enjoying sex and pornography if  you so chose, is not something to be ashamed of.  And, so yeah, the shortened version of the story is five days later she got on a plane to go home and I signed a contract with Wicked. 

Not only did both jessica and Stormy end up writing and directing for Wicked Pictures, but each of them have successful empires, love their fans, and continue to stay on the current trending edge of this industry.  Follow jessica and Stormy on Twitter @thejessicadrake and @StormyDaniels. Also check out Stormy's website and Jessica's website.

Retro Birth Control Debate

Kristin Battista-Frazee

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Pink pill

All this retro 70s style debate about access to birth control is like stepping back in time. Didn’t we already decide 40 years ago women should freely determine their reproductive fate? Everyone’s entitled to their opinion but it’s archaic for Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum to believe birth control is harmful for women. Even more insulting is his PAC donor, Foster Friess, eluding to that “back in the day” philosophy that an aspirin in between a woman’s knees is a cost effective form of contraception. Rush Limbaugh became the star creep when he called Georgetown Law student, Sandra Fluke, a slut for speaking out about birth control coverage provided by religious institutions at a Congressional hearing. My book topic often leads my writing group to discuss sex and women’s issues. And in the context of today’s conversation about contraception, I wanted to share a comment made by a fellow member some time ago before all this recent news coverage. She said, "I’d rather have little girls looking like teens and learning about sex too early than teenagers looking like good little girls and being clueless about sex." Although we don’t want to see our daughters and granddaughters grow-up too soon, we know from past history that an atmosphere of moral judgment and silence about sexuality leaves women easily ostracized for premarital sex or pregnancy. As you know these comments by Limbaugh and others are reflective of an attempt to ostracize women and marginalize an important women’s health issue.

Recent events illustrate that some attitudes haven’t changed much since the 1970s and that people still believe a widely held misconception that women who have sex outside of marriage are sluts or whores without morals. This attack is a common tactic used to degrade women and harm their credibility in an effort to demean their message.  But today women hold more power, money and influence to fight back and will never be quiet on issues that affect our freedoms and rights.  This upcoming election, watch as women vote overwhelming Democratic and Republicans spend the months leading up to November faltering under the weight of their bad press.  While the aforementioned men seem to pine for the good old days, we will remind them (yet again) that the days of chastity belts are long gone. 

I also want to acknowledge how porn has been influential in spurring conversations and debates about sex and women’s sexuality. When porn became widely available in neighborhood movie theaters and Deep Throat arrived on the scene in 1972, it created awareness about equal sexual pleasure and increased the demand for birth control which was becoming more widely used at the time.  I don’t think women would have won as many hard fought battles for reproductive freedoms and taken such an active role in controlling when they have children, if it had not been for the influence of porn that shaped our opinions about sex at a critical time.

Today sex and porn are still popular and a part of our culture so we should talk about these issues without reverting back to some dangerous views that will limit choices for women. Let’s hope religious organizations will take a broader view about providing contraception coverage and realize a person can freely practice their religion but their religious convictions shouldn’t be forced on to anyone else.

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